20, Pregnant, and I Don’t Want the Baby! What Next?

February 22, 2021

By Adoption Choices of Florida

20, Pregnant, and I Don’t Want the Baby! What Next?

Unplanned pregnancy can be terrifying for any birth mother, but if you’re 20 or younger and have become unexpectedly pregnant, you’re much more likely to panic and make rash decisions than a birth mother who’s a bit older. It’s OK to be a little distraught after learning about your unplanned pregnancy, but, like any birth mother experiencing this kind of situation, it’s extremely important to try and remain calm and avoid excess stress. 

At Adoption Choices of Florida, we know firsthand how difficult it can be to maintain a level head after becoming unexpectedly pregnant. To help alleviate some of your uncertainty, we’ve created a list to help young birth mothers going through an unplanned pregnancy to figure out their next steps if they’re considering placing their baby for adoption!  

20 and Pregnant? Here are Your Next Steps! 

  1. Deciding if Adoption is Right for You and Your Baby

If you’re young and have become pregnant unexpectedly, it’s very important to weigh your options before making a final decision about your unplanned pregnancy. Do some of your own research about your options, but don’t be afraid to reach out to professionals and other experts for guidance — that’s what they’re there for! If you’re curious about adoption, again, we advise you to do a little research about adoption and the adoption process, as well as contacting an adoption agency for more information. 

It’s common to feel a little nervous before and when reaching out to an adoption agency — especially when you’re young and unsure. But by sending a quick email or making a simple phone call, you’ll only be helping yourself and your baby. The more you know about adoption, the better informed you’ll be when it comes time to make a final decision about your unplanned pregnancy and your future. 

  1. Finding an Adoption Agency in Your Area

If you’ve committed to placing your baby for adoption, your next step is going to be to find an adoption agency near you that makes you and your baby’s well-being its top priority. With two locations in Florida — Jacksonville and Tampa — Adoption Choices of Florida is a great option for birth mothers from all walks of life seeking information about placing a baby for adoption. And with a wonderful team of adoption professionals and other experts employed within our agency, you can also feel confident in our ability to prioritize the well-being and best interests of both you and your baby! 

If you’re interested in learning more about our adoption agency please visit our website’s About Adoption Choices of Florida page for more information about us and how we can help you throughout your adoption journey!

  1. Choosing which Type of Adoption You Want

Once you’ve decided upon an adoption agency, next you’ll want to choose which type of adoption you think is the best fit for both you and your baby. There are three types of adoption to choose from — open, semi-open, and closed. Each of these three types of adoption have its own unique advantages and disadvantages, so it’s up to you to determine what you think is right! 

Remember, once you’ve chosen an adoption agency, a team of professionals within that agency will be able to help guide you through the adoption process. So, if you’re unsure about a certain type of adoption and want to learn more, don’t hesitate to talk to one of your experts to find out more information. If you’d like to learn a little more about your options within adoption, please visit our website’s blog on the three types of adoption.   

  1. Creating Your Baby’s Adoption Plan

There’s quite a bit that goes into creating your baby’s adoption plan, but essentially, an adoption plan includes and sums up all of your preferences regarding your baby’s adoption. These preferences can include, but aren’t limited to: which type of adoption you want, your preferences regarding your baby’s adoptive family, and your birth/hospital plan.

If creating your baby’s adoption plan sounds intimidating to you, don’t worry! You’re certainly not alone in that feeling. Most birth mothers who choose to place a baby for adoption experience a decent amount of anxiety around creating their baby’s adoption plan. But again, this is why your adoption agency and a team of professionals will be with your every step of the way on your adoption journey. If you’re still feeling a little uneasy about creating your baby’s adoption plan, please visit our blog  for birth mothers on what to include in your child’s adoption plan for more information.

  1. Surrounding Yourself with People Who Support You

An essential part of the success of you and your baby’s adoption journey is surrounding yourself with people who love, care for and support you. When you’re young and have become pregnant unexpectedly, it can be difficult to inform your family and friends of your situation. But trust us, the sooner you talk to your loved ones, the better! You may or may not find that some of these people don’t or won’t support you on your adoption journey — this can be extremely upsetting and disappointing. However, it’s the people who stick by your side through it all who are truly the most important! 

If you’re struggling to find support within your own social circle, we suggest looking for support within your community. At Adoption Choices of Florida, we can help connect you with support groups within your area or with emotional support counselors within our agency. Though you may not believe it now, soon you’ll find that there are so many people out there who will be more than willing to support you and your baby throughout the adoption process! 

There’s No Shame in Choosing Adoption!

As aforementioned, young birth mothers are much more likely to panic about their unplanned pregnancy and make decisions that perhaps aren’t as well thought-out as they should be. Similarly, young birth mothers are much more likely to feel ashamed and embarrassed about their unplanned pregnancy and much more likely to feel guilty once they’ve decided to place their baby for adoption. 

No matter what age you are, there’s no reason at all to feel guilty, ashamed or embarrassed about unplanned pregnancy or placing a baby for adoption. In fact,  birth mothers — even the young ones — who choose adoption are the most brave and selfless of people. It takes a great deal of love and of courage to decide to place your baby for adoption, and to recognize that perhaps there’s another person or family out there who can provide your baby with the life that they deserve where you couldn’t. 

If you are a pregnant woman in Florida considering adoption, and have any questions or concerns about the adoption process, please don’t hesitate to reach out. For more information on adoption, visit us at Adoption Choices of Florida or call us at: (833) 352-3678