4 Tips to Choosing a Transracial Adoptive Family as a Birth Mother

As a birth mother, choosing the adoptive family who will raise your child is one of the biggest, and sometimes the hardest, decisions you will make in your adoption journey. Sometimes, choosing an adoptive family of another race and culture may be the best choice. Looking past the race to see their true values and contributions is important to ensure your baby is in the best home. 

At Adoption Choices of Florida, we will give you all of the adoptive families to choose from. They are all screened and ready to take on the gift of a baby. We will guide you through each prospective adoptive parent profile book and help you decipher what attributes you wish for your adoptive family to have. You deserve to be supported and to choose what makes you feel most comfortable when it comes to your baby. Choosing a transracial adoptive family will have many benefits and is not something you should shy away from.

  1. Ask the Adoptive Family Questions

Considering an adoptive family who has similar outlooks on how to raise your child is the best thing you can do as a birth mother. Any expectant mother considering an adoptive family should not shy away from asking questions to help her know more about her choice, and what kind of life they would offer her child. When it comes to an adoptive family who you do not share traditions or a culture with, there may be an added set of questions to ask and consider.

You are able to choose how open you want your adoption to be as well, which may cause more or less concern with the culture and traditions shared. If you choose an open adoption with a family whose traditions you know little to nothing about, communication may feel awkward later on. Being open from the beginning will be beneficial for you, your child and your adoptive family. If you choose semi-open or closed adoption, being aware of what your baby’s day-to-day life in comparison to yours may be something you are curious about and have the right to have a peek into before choosing the adoptive family. 

  1. Research the Adoptive Parents’ Culture and Traditions

There are so many ways to learn and become knowledgeable about your adoptive family. One of these could be researching and learning all you can about their race, ethnicity and culture. This could, in turn, show you important traditions within the culture, and help you come up with questions to ask later. Doing your own research, and learning all you can will be beneficial, as it will bring you closer together and make it possible for you to share mutual respect for each other’s differing cultures.

No matter the type of adoption you choose, being well-versed in what your adoptive family believes and practices is important. Research will also help you be able to start and hold some important conversations with your child and adoptive family later on. 

  1. Be Open about Your Feelings

In general, you will have a lot of ideas and thoughts about the adoption process. When it comes to choosing an adoptive family of a different race, there may be questions rooted in pure curiosity that you may want to shy away from in order to not offend anyone. Everyone involved wants what is best for you, and you being fully comfortable with every aspect of the adoption process is most important. If you cross any boundaries, don’t feel sorry or guilty. All questions that will help you and your child are important and valid.

If you feel uncomfortable or confused during any part of the adoption process, you can talk to your adoption caseworker and/or adoption counselor. Everyone involved in your adoption journey — including your adoptive parents — want whatever is best for you. Your feelings and concerns are always important to be known and shared. Transracial adoption is a selfless choice to make, but that doesn’t mean there won’t still be ups and downs throughout your adoption journey.

  1. Reach Out to Those Familiar with Transracial Adoption

There are many transracial adoption stories, and reaching out to other birth mothers in a transracial adoption may be beneficial to you and your adoptive family. Creating a friendship with others who have experienced the same thing as you will help you grow. 

Many adoptive families speak about being in an open transracial adoption, due to the exposure to multiple cultures and practices. This is beneficial in many ways; but, if you choose closed adoption, your child will still thrive in their nurturing house where they will learn about their heritage along with their adoptive family.

Choosing a Transracial Adoptive Family

Choosing a transracial adoptive family is an amazing route to take, and can get confusing at times. But, at the same time, there can be many benefits. Overall, choosing the adoptive family who you think has the attributes you want for your baby is most important. If choosing a transracial adoption is what seems best for you, you should go forward with it!

Adoption Choices of Florida supports transracial adoption and works with waiting families, children, and birth mothers of all races. You will be guided through the decision of which adoptive family to choose. Doing what is best for your baby is what we want most. 

If you are a pregnant woman in Florida considering adoption, and have any questions or concerns about the adoption process, please don’t hesitate to reach out. For more information on adoption, visit us at Adoption Choices of Florida or call us at: (833) 352-3678