5 Important Questions to Ask When Creating an Adoption Plan as a Birth Mother in Florida

By Eve Jones

When experiencing an unplanned pregnancy, it can be difficult to  decide what to do. This is especially true if you don’t want to be a parent or are focused on other things happening in your life. Perhaps you are finishing school, working on a promotion or never saw yourself as a parent. All of these are valid reasons that may be making you feel overwhelmed. But don’t worry. You have options!  One of these is placing your baby for adoption, and forming an adoption plan that fits your needs and those of your baby’s.

If you are a pregnant woman considering adoption and wanting to know more about creating an adoption plan for you and your baby or the Florida adoption process, you’ve come to the right place. Adoption Choices of Florida is here to help you in whatever way we can. 

1. What is an Adoption Plan?

An adoption plan is, essentially, an outline of your preferences and expectations for the adoption process. It allows you to write down everything you want out of the adoption process and ensures that you have the support you need throughout. This, in turn, can help greatly reduce your stress and anxiety levels, as you’ll take out “the unknown” aspect of your adoption journey. 

Your adoption plan can include, but is not limited to:

• Researching and determining what type of adoption you want
• Deciding how involved you want to be with your child and the adoptive family after the adoption has been finalized
• Choosing the adoptive parents who will raise your child
• Letting your adoption caseworker and the hospital staff know what you’d like the birth and delivery process to be like

2. How do I get Started on My Adoption Plan?

When it comes to creating your adoption plan, there are many aspects to consider. Think about what kind of life you want your baby to have. What type of adoptive family you envision for him or her. Do you have a preference with whether or not they are placed in a single or two-parent home? Transracial or LGBT? Would you like your child to have siblings or be an only child? What about pets? Education? Religion? Would you rather they lived in a city, suburb or the country? Also, how much contact you want to have with him or her after the adoption is finalized. 

All of this and more will help you get started on your adoption plan. We understand how putting together an adoption plan can be stressful, but you won’t be alone. Your adoption caseworker will guide you every step of the way, and help you navigate all of the important decisions you’ll need to make. 

3. Should I Include My Hospital Experience in My Adoption Plan?

Yes! Having a birth plan, also known as a hospital plan, is important as well. Know what hospital you’ll be going to and decide who you would like to have with you — whether it’s your own family or friends, the adoptive family, or if you’d prefer to be alone. Make a list of items you’ll need at the hospital, like: a change of clothes, wipes, makeup, toiletries, etc. Pack a bag of these items within a month or two of your due date. You want to be prepared, in case you need to grab your to-go bag if your baby decides to arrive early. If you have insurance, have all your paperwork and medical information on hand, including: your current medications, allergies, etc. If you do not have insurance, our adoption agency in Florida offers financial assistance on an as-needed basis. Be sure to consult with your adoption caseworker to see if you qualify. This may help ensure that your medical expenses are covered..

4. Where does the Adoptive Family Fit in My Adoption Plan?

Once you’ve outlined all the important aspects of your adoption plan, you’ll be ready to finally choose the adoptive family you want for your child. As aforementioned, think about what your ideal adoptive family looks like, and write down any specific preferences you have. This will help your adoption caseworker select adoptive parent profile books for you to review. In these, you will be able to see pictures, read bios and learn about each prospective adoptive parent. Many may even include a personalized letter entitled, “Dear Birth Mother,” where you will gain insight into what the adoptive parents hopes and dreams are for your child. 

As no adoptive parent(s) is perfect, we do encourage you to be flexible when reviewing the profile books. Consider what your “must haves” are, and what aspects that you’re willing to be more lenient on. Every adoptive family is unique in their own way, and can offer your child a wonderful life. They will love, care and support your child no matter what. 

5. Do You Need an Adoption Plan as a Birth Mother?

Whether or not you make an adoption plan for you and your baby is up to you. It’s not a requirement. However, our adoption agency recommends having one, as it can ensure that your adoption journey runs smoothly and boost your confidence overall. Having an adoption plan can also give you peace of mind and reduce your stress level, as you’ll have everything outlined upfront.

Creating an Adoption Plan as a Birth Mother in Florida

If you have chosen to work with Adoption Choices of Florida, then you’re already a step ahead! We will help you throughout the adoption process and ensure that your needs — and the needs of your baby — are taken care of. There is no such thing as being too prepared when it comes to adoption, and any planning you can do will only help you now and after the adoption has been finalized. 

As the birth mother, you have full control over the adoption process and creating an adoption plan will help you feel more at ease — especially when emotions are high and anytime you feel uncomfortable. It will also help you feel more confident advocating for yourself in the delivery room, and for your child to their adoptive parents. This, in turn, will only help you make the best choices for you and your baby. No one understands what you need better than you!

If you are a pregnant woman in Florida considering adoption, and have any questions or concerns about the adoption process, please don’t hesitate to reach out. For more information on adoption, visit us at Adoption Choices of Florida or call us at: (833) 352-3678