By Eve Jones
When experiencing an unplanned pregnancy, it can be difficult to decide what to do. This is especially true if you don’t want to be a parent or are focused on other things happening in your life. Perhaps you are finishing school, working on a promotion or never saw yourself as a parent. All of these are valid reasons that may be making you feel overwhelmed. But don’t worry. You have options! One of these is placing your baby for adoption, and forming an adoption plan that fits your needs and those of your baby’s.
If you are a pregnant woman considering adoption and want to know more about creating a plan for you and your baby or adoption in Florida, you’ve come to the right place. Adoption Choices of Florida is here to help you in whatever way we can.
An adoption plan is, essentially, an outline of your preferences and expectations for the adoption process. It allows you to write down everything you want out of the adoption journey and ensures that you have the support you need throughout. This, in turn, can help greatly reduce your stress and anxiety levels, as you’ll take out “the unknown” aspect of your adoption journey.
Your adoption plan can include, but is not limited to:
When it comes to creating your adoption plan, there are many aspects to consider. Think about what kind of life you want your baby to have. What type of adoptive family you envision for him or her. Do you have a preference with whether or not they are placed in a single or two-parent home? Transracial or LGBTQ+? Would you like your child to have siblings or be an only child? What about pets? Education? Religion? Would you rather they lived in a city, suburb or the country? Also, how much contact you want to have with him or her after the adoption is finalized.
All of this and more will help you get started on your adoption plan. We understand how putting together a plan can be stressful, but you won’t be alone. Adoption agencies can guide you every step of the way, and help you navigate all of the important decisions you’ll need to make.
Yes! Having a birth plan is important as well. Know what hospital you’ll be going to and decide who you would like to have with you. Make a list of items you’ll need at the hospital, like: a change of clothes, wipes, makeup, toiletries, etc. Pack a bag of these items within a month or two of your due date. You want to be prepared, in case you need to grab your to-go bag if your baby decides to arrive early. If you have insurance, have all your paperwork and medical information on hand, including: your current medications, allergies, etc. If you do not have insurance, adoption agencies offer financial assistance on an as-needed basis. Be sure to consult with your adoption caseworker to see if you qualify. This may help ensure that your ability to cover medical expenses.
Once you’ve outlined all the important aspects of your adoption plan, you’ll be ready to finally choose the adoptive family you want for your child. As aforementioned, think about what your ideal adoptive family looks like, and write down any specific preferences you have. This will help your adoption caseworker select adoptive parent profile books for you to review. In these, you will be able to see pictures, read bios and learn about each prospective adoptive parent. Many may even include a personalized letter entitled, “Dear Birth Mother,” where you will gain insight into what the adoptive parents hopes and dreams are for your child.
As no adoptive parent(s) is perfect, we do encourage you to be flexible when reviewing the profile books. Consider what your “must haves” are, and what aspects that you’re willing to be more lenient on. Every adoptive family is unique in their way and can offer your child a wonderful life. They will love, care and support your child no matter what.
Whether or not you make an adoption plan for yourself and your baby is up to you. It’s not a requirement. However, our adoption agency recommends having one, as it can ensure that your adoption journey runs smoothly and boost your confidence overall. Having a plan can also give you peace of mind and reduce your stress level, as you’ll have everything outlined upfront.
If you have chosen to work with Adoption Choices of Florida, then you’re already a step ahead! We will help you and take care of your need throughout the adoption. You can never prepare too much when it comes to adoption.
As the birth mother, you have full control over the adoption process and creating a plan will help you feel more at ease — especially when emotions are high and anytime you feel uncomfortable. It will also help you feel more confident advocating for yourself in the delivery room, and for your child to their adoptive parents. This, in turn, will only help you make the best choices for you and your baby. No one understands what you need better than you!
If you are a pregnant woman in Florida considering adoption, and have any questions or concerns about the adoption process, please don’t hesitate to reach out. For more information on adoption, visit us at Adoption Choices of Florida or call us at: (833) 352-3678