5 Reasons Birth Mothers Decline an Adoptive Parent Match

By Madeline McRae

A big part of the adoption process is finding an adoptive parent match that fits your wishes for the future child. A lot of factors can go into finding an adoptive parent that aligns with the views you seek for the future and your child. Things to consider would be the environment or setting you want, pets of any kind, the parenting style you are most comfortable with and what would be best, religious preferences, and how open you would like to be with the process during the adoption parent match.

We know that giving up a baby for adoption is never an easy choice. The thought that your child is raised by someone other than yourself can be worrisome for any birth mother. That is why we at Adoption Choices of Florida are here the help you pick the best adoptive family for your child.

1. Birth Mother Wants a Good Environment for Her Baby

Every birth mother wants a good environment for their future baby, and it’s important for the child’s psyche and physical well-being to be nurtured and surrounded by a caring and loving environment. The adoption agencies in Florida should be able to give you a wide spread of different adoptive parents and a description of that family’s environment. So whether you want the future child to be in the city, suburbs, or the country, I’m sure there is a perfect fit for your liking.  

2. Adoptive Parents Might Have Pets

Pets can fall into the environment category as well. Maybe look into your family’s history and your personal history of allergies to certain dander or pets. If you can, get an allergy test as soon as possible for the child and if they test positive for said allergies, make sure that the adoptive family does not have them in their home. 

You could also ask the adoption agencies in Florida to file down the selection to see if you want the adoptive parents to have pets or not and if they are good with children. For example, you might not want your child to grow up with pets, or you might want pets to be a constant in the child’s life. Ultimately, it can be collaborative or completely up to you.

3. The Birth Mother Does Not Agree with The Adoptive Parent’s Parenting Style

Finding a parenting style can be vital in choosing an adoptive parent, as you probably want the best for the child. A lot of things can be a factor in which you decide to decline a family. Maybe they didn’t fit your needs, wants, or expectations. You could be skeptical about the process of finding an available adoptive parent and their parenting style. Maybe the situations and events you experienced in your childhood can influence your decision for your future child and can be an intimidating train of thought. A lot of thoughts can run in your mind, and it can be intimidating to find one you like. Thankfully, Adoption Choices in Florida will gladly evaluate each of the adoptive families to ensure that the one you are looking at is sufficient.

4. Adoptive Families Religious Preferences 

Your religious preferences can be a big reason to decline a certain adoptive parent. Maybe you want the child to grow up in the same religious household you grew up in, and that religion is important to you, and the adoptive family might not see it the same way. This is an important question to ask when looking for adoptive parents for a future child.

5. Level of Openness of the Adoption

Above all else, you control how open you would like to be in the adoption process. There are usually three different types of adoption: closed, semi-closed, and open adoption. Depending on how transparent you would like to be in the process can narrow down your choices. For example, you might want to be open with the adoption process, but the other party does not. Either way, agencies will help you with the process. 

At the End of the Day, You are in Control of Your Adoption

All things considered, do not be discouraged if you decline different applicants towards the adoptive parents. The process can be challenging and tiring, but Adoption Choices of Florida is very happy to help you through your choices. You, as the birth mother want the best for your child, so it’s only natural to decline offers if they don’t align with your liking. However, you can find an adoptive parent perfect for you, so do not feel discouraged, and don’t be afraid to ask for help.

If you are a pregnant woman in Florida considering adoption and have any questions or concerns about the adoption process, please don’t hesitate to reach out. For more information on adoption, visit us at Adoption Choices of Florida or call us at: (833) 352-3678, or text us at 904-559-1251.