When I first learned about my pregnancy, I was surprised because I was not expecting it. At first, I felt stressed out, and I was panicking because I could not take care of a baby financially at the time. I was lost, and I did not know what to do. My boyfriend sat me down, and we went over the options that we had to choose from. Parenting was not a good option for us because of our financial situation, and I did not want to terminate my pregnancy, so we looked into adoption. I was hesitant because I thought there was a specific time that we had to start the adoption process. After doing some research on the matter, I learned that you could choose adoption when you feel ready and think it is the right thing to do.
We decided on a Miami adoption, but I did not want to just give up my child to a local adoption agency and then not have any say on what adoptive family my baby goes to. I did not feel comfortable doing it that way, and I know I would have felt like that I was giving up. That is when we looked into private Florida adoptions and found Adoption Choices of Florida. Working with them was the best decision I made, and the experience was rewarding. I learned a lot about the adoption process itself, and I also learned that just because I was putting up my baby for adoption, I was not actually giving up. I was doing what was best for my baby and for my boyfriend and me.
The adoption process with Adoption Choices of Florida was amazing. I learned that with private adoption, I was in control and got to create the adoption plan. My adoption caseworker provided me with the information I needed at each step and guided me through the process. My caseworker was also there to clarify things for me and answer any questions that I had. Creating the adoption plan also helped me understand the adoption process, and being able to create the plan helped me heal and be at peace with my decision.
During the adoption process, I learned that I could change what type of adoption plan I have at any point in time. There is open adoption, semi-open adoption, and closed adoption. I stuck with an open adoption plan, but my caseworker informed me that if I wished to change to a semi-open or even a closed adoption plan, I could at any time. This helped me feel more comfortable with my adoption plan, and it truly made me feel like I was a part of the adoption process.
When the time came to pick which adoptive family my baby would go to, my adoption caseworker provided me with profiles of families they had on their waitlist. I was giving the families profiles and information on them to decide which family I thought was best for my baby. My casework also told me that they would provide me with more profiles and information if I wished to see more families. Along with picking the adoptive family, I was also able to decide what type of communication I could have with the family and my baby after the adoption process was complete. I learned how important of a step this was in the process and how having communication with the adoptive family and my baby could help me heal, and it did—just being able to talk to the family and check in with them on how the baby was doing and adjusting helped me feel good about my decision. It also helped me realize that I did what was best for my baby.
I will admit at first, I was hesitant to go with the adoption process. I looked into tons of adoption agencies near me, and then I found Adoption Choices of Florida. They helped me understand that I was not giving up on being a parent and doing what I thought was best for my baby. I learned how important it was for me as a birth mother to be a part of the adoption process and create my adoption plan. I learned how being a part of this process helped me heal and be at peace with my decision to go with the adoption process. If I had to go through this experience again, there is nothing that I would do differently.
If you are a pregnant woman in Florida considering adoption and have any questions or concerns about the adoption process, please don’t hesitate to reach out. For more information on adoption, visit us at Adoption Choices of Florida or call us at: (833) 352-3678 or text us at 904-559-1251
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