The universe likes to throw us curve balls when we’re least expecting it and completely unprepared. Statistically speaking, many women who face an unexpected pregnancy are not in a situation that is ideal for parenting. Financial hardship, unstable housing situations, and an unknown or unsupportive father of the baby are commonplace in this situation. When the birth father is not in the picture, it can be hard to navigate what you can and can’t do with the pregnancy.
The good news is, you don’t have to deal with this alone. Adoption Choices of Florida is here for you as an advocate, support system, and gateway to needed resources. Although we are an adoption agency, we realize that adoption isn’t for everyone. Contact us 24/7 for confidential and no-pressure answers to all your unplanned pregnancy questions. We work with hundreds of women every year from all walks of life. We’ll help you understand your options and walk you through the entire adoption process.
If you’re facing an unplanned pregnancy and considering adoption in Florida, the first thing after contacting a Florida adoption agency is to make an adoption plan. If you’re new to adoption, you’re probably new to birth plans and especially adoption plans. Remember, although early preparation is great, there’s no need to rush. You can choose adoption at any stage in the pregnancy, even after giving birth. Take time, ask questions, do research. Be completely comfortable and at peace with your decision.
An adoption plan is just as it sounds; a plan for your adoption. Everyone’s adoption plan will look different, but they all have the same basic outline. Your adoption counselor will help you create and tailor your plan to your unique needs and wants. A basic Florida adoption plan will be:
There’s a lot to consider when making an adoption plan. We’ll help you plan and organize so your adoption journey is as smooth as possible. Creating an adoption plan is a standard part of the adoption process, and birth mothers find it to be beneficial and necessary. A little preparation at the beginning will save a lot of headaches and stress later.
You can make an adoption plan at any time. If the strip just turned pink and you’ve decided on adoption, or if it’s the last trimester, you can choose adoption and make an adoption plan. It’s never too late. Even if you’ve given birth and taken your baby home, you can still choose adoption. There’s no pressure or permanency with adoption plans. You can change and alter your adoption plan throughout the process as necessary. If you’re still unsure about adoption, you can still make an adoption plan to see if it’s right for you. Seeing your adoption laid out in front of you may help you make a concrete decision. Adoption plans are not a contract and not legally binding, so you can throw it out and change your mind at any time.
Short answer, no. The biological father does not have to be involved in creating the adoption plan. Nothing stops you from making an adoption plan without the father’s knowledge or consent in the adoption. Even if he is contesting the adoption, unless you are married, it is unlikely he will be able to stop the adoption. It’s always best to be prepared, so as soon as you know you want to pursue adoption, contact a Florida adoption agency like Adoption Choices of Florida. We will start an adoption plan right away and help you determine if it’s safe or would be beneficial to include the biological father in the process.
Besides getting his consent for the adoption, you don’t have to include him in anything. If the father is unsupportive, unknown, or can’t be contacted, you get to experience the adoption journey solo-style. Many women go through the Florida adoption process without the biological father, but they never do it alone. When you choose adoption in Florida with Adoption Choices of Florida, you are never alone in the adoption process.
If the biological father is in your life or supportive of the adoption, we encourage them to be a part of the process. Birth fathers also require emotional healing after placement, and allowing them to be part of the adoption and creating the adoption plan can help them cope and heal. Although not necessary, having a partner there to confide in and discuss options with can be comforting. There are no hard and fast rules on including the birth father in the adoption process. Most women choose to or have to go through adoption solo and come out the other side even stronger. Having so many choices and decisions can actually help birth mothers regain a sense of control that is often lost when facing an unintended pregnancy. So should you include the biological father? That is entirely up to you and your discretion. Would you include the biological father in the adoption plan? What factors do you take into account when considering if you include him?
If you are a pregnant woman in Florida considering adoption, and have any questions or concerns about the adoption process, please don’t hesitate to reach out. For more information on adoption, visit us at Adoption Choices of Florida or call us at: (833) 352-3678
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