Choosing Adoption Late in Your Pregnancy

May 9, 2024

By Adoption Choices of Florida

Choosing Adoption Late in Your Pregnancy

By Isabelle Bryan

Deciding to place your child for adoption is not always an easy choice. And for some birth mothers, it may not be an immediate one, either. You may know adoption is the right choice for you as soon as you discover you are pregnant. Alternatively, you may decide adoption is what you want for your child late in your pregnancy. You might even choose adoption after you have given birth. The important thing to understand is that no matter when you begin the adoption process, one thing remains certain. It will never be too late.

Adoption remains an option at any point during—and after—your pregnancy. And whenever you decide to start your adoption process, Adoption Choices of Florida will be here for you. Our adoption specialists can assist you in moving briskly through your adoption process while still remaining in control of it. At no point will the well-being of you and your child be sacrificed for the sake of quick decision-making.

Planning a Late Pregnancy, Last-Minute, or Newborn Adoption

For many birth mothers, the adoption process is relatively straightforward. An adoption agency is chosen and adoption and birth plans are made. Time is taken to ensure that you are sure of your decisions. Support may be asked for and acquired. You may even decide to begin understanding and working through your emotions before your adoption is finalized. 

Adoptions for birth mothers eight to nine months pregnant follow the same process at a quicker pace. How far along in your pregnancy you are can help you to determine how long you have to make decisions. You may choose adoption a month or two before giving birth, which gives you several weeks to make decisions. And if your choices change, you have up to 48 hours after giving birth to update your adoption plan. You may also choose adoption just before or after giving birth. Last-minute or newborn adoptions may provide certain challenges, but they are in no way impossible. 

No matter when you decide on adoption, our adoption specialists are prepared to assist. While our agency primarily focuses on adoptions planned prior to delivery, we are also available to help with newborn adoptions.

The Intake Process for Birth Mothers Choosing a Florida Adoption at 8 to 9 Months Pregnant

Adoption intake is essentially an adoption agency’s admissions process for birth mothers. It will likely follow a similar path for each birth mother, no matter when you begin planning your child adoption. The primary difference is how long you have to complete the process.

After meeting with someone from the adoption agency, you will likely be asked to fill out some paperwork. This may include a request for your medical history and preferences regarding adoptive families and types of adoption. Once provided with this information, adoption specialists can narrow down the list of available prospective adoptive families. This may help to take some time and stress out of the adoption planning process.

Once you are admitted into one of our adoption agencies, you can begin working on your birth and adoption plans. The choices you will need to make may include:

  • Choosing an adoptive family and, if you did not do so before, a type of adoption. You can still meet with adoptive families to form a personal opinion, of course. But how many you have the time to meet with may be limited.
  • Determining and asking for any support services you need
  • The hospital you want to deliver in
  • Who you want in the room with you
  • Your desires regarding pain relief—natural or medical—and medical intervention
  • Whether you want to hold your baby post-delivery

Taking Care of Yourself During and After Your Adoption Process

It is equally as important to practice self-care during your child’s adoption as it is after it. Pregnancy and the adoption process can be hard on both your body and mind. And while decisions need to be made, pushing yourself will have negative consequences in the long run. However, the more focused you are on your adoption plan, the harder it may be to think of self-care ideas. Here are some to get you started:

  • Choose the right adoption agency. This is both an early adoption decision and a self-care method. Make sure that the agency you choose—whether a Christian adoption agency or a non-denominational one—offers the services you need. 
  • Consider finding or creating a support group. This may be friends and family, a pool of new acquaintances, or other birth mothers.
  • Find ways to work through your emotions. Try journaling, speaking to a counselor, or even screaming—preferably in an empty area.
  • Eat healthy foods, exercise, and get enough sleep. It is important to take care of your body—for yourself, and for your child.
  • Do things you enjoy. Read a good book, watch a favorite movie, or visit a location you feel you can relax in.
  • Take time for your existing hobbies or consider starting a new one. Distract yourself in a way that is both enjoyable and productive.
  • Get outside and into nature. This may look like basking and soaking up the sun, or you may prefer spending time with friends. 
  • Avoid overworking yourself. Do not bring your life to a complete halt, but do not push yourself too far either. Make sure to listen to your body. 

What Assistance Can Adoption Choices of Florida Provide?

Unfortunately, we cannot provide every form of self-care for birth mothers. But we can work to keep your Miami adoption as stress-free as possible. Our adoption services include:

  • Financial support for expenses including rent, transportation, and groceries for eligible birth mothers 
  • Access to prenatal care
  • Housing assistance for those who do not have stable or safe housing
  • Counseling services
  • Adoption planning assistance for all birth mothers, including those dealing with an unplanned pregnancy or teen pregnancy
  • Assistance explaining your adoption decision to family and other loved ones
  • 24/7 support for any questions or concerns you may have

Considering Adoption in Florida During the Last Months of Your Pregnancy

Adoption can be a difficult choice, but that does not make it something to be avoided. For all its complications, it can have a positive effect on the lives of both you and your child. As well as the adoptive family you choose. This is true no matter when you begin adoption planning. While choosing adoption late in your pregnancy may be more emotional and stressful, it is no less worthwhile. 

In the end, it comes down to what the right choice is for you. If you cannot or do not want to raise a child, adoption gives you another option. And Adoption Choices of Florida is here to help you make that decision. No matter how far along you are in your pregnancy, our adoption agencies can assist. During the adoption process, we can help you get the information you need to make your adoption and birth plans. Post-adoption, we are here to make sure you get the emotional support you are looking for. It is our goal to make your adoption process as painless and stress-free as possible.