Choosing Closed Adoption in Florida

April 18, 2024

By Adoption Choices of Florida

Choosing Closed Adoption in Florida

By Eric Somarriba

After a long and complex adoption process, some birth mothers want a definitive end to it all. The effects of adoption have no one true endpoint, but the process itself ends sooner with a closed adoption. Compared to an open adoption, the priorities in a closed adoption are privacy and closure. Like many parts of the process, the adoption type is an important decision you must make. Open, semi-open, and closed adoption each have their advantages and disadvantages. Depending on who you are and what you want, an advantage to someone else could be a disadvantage to you. This article centers on closed adoption and what it would look like if chosen. We want to inform you of all your options so you can make the best decision. 

Adoption Choices of Florida is a licensed adoption agency dedicated to fulfilling the needs of our birth mothers. We’re here to help you with these tough choices and to stay true to your wishes. Whether you choose open, semi-open, or closed adoption, we’ll never judge and will work towards upholding your decisions. Trust us to properly complete your adoption in Florida and to support you.

What is Closed Adoption?

Closed adoption is a type of adoption defined by having no contact with your child and their adoptive family. As a part of your adoption plan, you still have the option to choose the adoptive family of your child. But unlike open adoption, you and the adoptive family will not share any contact information. It then also means that you will have no contact with your child throughout their life.

What are the Advantages of Closed Adoption?

The primary advantages of closed adoption are your privacy and a sense of finality. While you can choose the adoptive family, they will learn little to no information about you. Without the exchange of contact information, neither of you can try to directly contact each other. 

The other advantage is the closure and finality closed adoption can bring. Once you give birth and sign away your parental rights, that’s the end of the official process. The adoptive family will take over care of your child and you’re free to move on. You’re not bound by any expectations of keeping up contact and building up a relationship. For some, this definitive endpoint can give them the most peace when moving on.

What are the Disadvantages of Closed Adoption?

Like any adoption type, closed adoption isn’t without potential disadvantages. While privacy and closure are its intended advantages, it also means losing the potential relationship with your child. If that’s something you want ultimately depends on you, but it has potential benefits to miss out on. The chance of receiving updates on your child and how they’re doing can offer relief and peace. Even something small, like a picture of them being happy, can go a long way. Some birth mothers go through periods of intense grief and regret after their adoption. Knowing their child’s life is one of the ways they can heal this grief. Every birth mother’s experience is unique, so whether you feel this way or not is up to you.

There are also potential disadvantages for your child. Many adoptees still have a desire to know about their birth family and where they came from. A closed adoption seals those records, meaning they have no easy way of learning about you. For them, it can give them their own experience with grief and regret, and concerns about their identity. 

Should You Choose Open Adoption Instead?

The choice of which adoption type to pursue is one of the most important decisions in the entire process. It’s important to examine all options and make a properly informed decision. Even with the finality of a closed adoption, it’ll still have its own lifelong effects. In recent times, closed adoption has become the least common adoption method chosen. By contrast, open adoption is what many adoption agencies recommend the most. 

What’s seen as open adoption’s biggest advantage is the relationship with your child. Even with an open adoption with few boundaries and frequent contact, you’re still not the one raising them. You don’t have to go through the potential strain of parenthood if you’re not ready while still having a relationship. There’s the chance to see them grow and the kind of person they can become. The level of openness is something that you can decide on with the adoptive family. You can both agree to frequent and direct contact or lean towards a semi-open adoption with more boundaries. This can mean limiting contact to something like letters and having less frequent communication overall. Both parties can agree on terms they’re both comfortable with and create something that helps everyone involved. Having a relationship with your child can help both of you, and it’s why it’s the more common choice.

The potential disadvantage of an open adoption is the relationship with the adoptive family. It isn’t a disadvantage inherently, but like any relationship, it can potentially sour. This can then affect your relationship and communication with your child and be a hurdle difficult to overcome for everyone.

What you want for yourself and your child is your decision, but we encourage you to properly examine all options. You never know what you may come to regret later.

Closed Adoption With Adoption Choices of Florida

We hope this article was useful in explaining closed adoption and what it may mean for your adoption. Our goal isn’t to make this decision for you, but there’s a reason closed adoption has become less common. Most adoption agencies in Florida hesitate to recommend it, and believe in the benefits of open adoption. The chance of a relationship with your child can have many positive effects, but this is still your choice. If you want that privacy and complete closure it’s perfectly fine. You’re no less valid than someone who does go down a different path on their adoption. But before you make your choice, look deep and figure out what will bring you more peace in the end.

If you’re currently facing an unplanned pregnancy and need adoption help, contact Adoption Choices of Florida right away. We’re here to offer our services to support you and to work towards fulfilling your needs. Your decisions are yours to make and we’ll uphold and respect them. Our goal is not only to complete your adoption, but to create a good future for you and your child.