Choosing Semi-Open Adoption with Adoption Choices of Florida

March 21, 2024

By Adoption Choices of Florida

Choosing Semi-Open Adoption with Adoption Choices of Florida

By Shaina Santagata

When a birth mother faces an unplanned pregnancy, her journey will lead her to consider various options for herself and her baby. One of the most common and beautiful decisions occurs when she decides to put her baby up for adoption. This selfless act offers birthmothers the ability to provide an enriching and stable life for their babies with an adoptive family of their choosing. An adoption plan tailored to the birth mother’s wants and desires for her baby’s well-being and future gets set into motion. Followed by her ability to choose how much she wants to be a part of her child’s life after adoption.

A semi-open adoption provides a birth mother with the unique opportunity of still maintaining a connection between herself and her baby. It is a combination of both closed and open adoption. By choosing a semi-open adoption, the birth mother can maintain her need for privacy and comfort based on her situation.

How Does Semi-Open Adoption Work?

One of the positive aspects of semi-open adoption is the flexibility it provides. Birth mothers and adoptive families can create the perfect level of contact and frequency that respectfully works for all parties involved. Specifics can be set in place that can be adjusted and tailored to everyone as the child grows up. At Adoption Choices of Florida, our knowledgeable and compassionate team members will assist with handling the interaction, as they will assume the role of mediator between birth mothers and adoptees.

The family who adopts the child would receive limited identifying information (e.g., birth parents’ names and addresses). If the birth mother desires future contact with her child, she can do so through letters, photos, or even occasional visits—should that be in agreement with all parties. Semi-open adoption leaves plenty of room for accommodating each birth mother, her comfort levels, and an understanding of her circumstances.

What are the Difficulties of a Semi-Open Adoption?

The hardest thing for a birth mother is to slowly learn to let go of her child and let them become a part of their adoptive family. It is an emotional journey, and it can come with a range of emotions that consist of feeling loss, grief, or longing for their child. While this is all very normal with the adoption process, it might not be easy for her to see her child growing up from a distance.

Undoubtedly, this can be a bitter-sweet situation. A birth mother might struggle with the uncertainty around her child’s upbringing, leading to concerns about the adoptive family and also apprehension towards the support that is coming from the adoption agencies. Learning and adapting to feeling disconnected from their child takes time and healing. It is the willingness of the birth mother to give herself grace while adjusting to these complex thoughts and emotions, all of which don’t happen overnight.

Our Florida adoption agencies understand that while a birth mother has the best intentions with maintaining a semi-open adoption with their child, this may not be the ideal choice in the long run. It is difficult for some to handle the delicate balance of how frequently they do or don’t see their child after adoption. It might be hard to suppress the innate parental instincts and wish to be more involved in your child’s life than was initially agreed upon. This requires empathy, patience, and respect on everyone’s part to maintain mature and open communication throughout the relationship.

How Do Adoption Agencies Help with Emotional Support?

When birth mothers choose to work with adoption services, they are given professional guidance from the beginning of their journey. Even when their child is adopted, the support doesn’t abruptly end there. We never want our birth mothers to feel alone because they never are! We want all of them to feel that they are making well-informed decisions that align with their circumstances and preferences.

Even though we briefly discussed the difficulties a birth mother can face with semi-open adoption, many have found feelings of joy and contentment within the process. Putting a child up for adoption does not mean the birth mother “gave up” on their child. In fact, it is the opposite! It is a deeply personal choice – one driven by love, selflessness, and a desire to have the best life for themselves and their child.

Here at Adoption Choices of Florida, we have helped so many birth mothers who desperately needed support and love throughout their journey. Our dedicated team consists of professionals who can provide resources and counseling—whether in a one-on-one session or a group setting.