Four Feelings to Expect When Choosing a Florida Adoption

January 17, 2022

By Adoption Choices of Florida

Four Feelings to Expect When Choosing a Florida Adoption

You just discovered you have an unplanned pregnancy. You must be feeling shocked and overcome with emotions that are hard to parse through. Having a pregnancy you weren’t expecting can be overwhelming that you may not know what you want right away. But you soon decide to go through our adoption process in the state of Florida. Just know that at Adoption Choices of Florida, we are here for you when you are ready. During the Florida adoption process, you may experience these four common feelings that you may have when finding out you are pregnant. 

What are Four Common Fears of FL Unplanned Pregnancy?

  1. Fear: You may be asking yourself, “Will my child hate me?” or “Will I regret giving my child up for adoption?” These are both valid questions that are common when you are fearful of the future outcome. This is understandable. Having an unexpected pregnancy can be scary, and all these what-ifs are a part of the emotions of this process. Allow yourself the opportunity to channel that fear. Use it as a means of what kind of adoption type you want. You may want a more personal connection with the adoptive family, or you may not. 
  1. Anger: You may be upset, beating yourself up over a mistake you didn’t intend to happen. You may not take responsibility right away for your actions. Sometimes it can be easier to be angry than deal with the task at hand. But try and let the anger go through you. Whatever anger is broiling is important to handle and let it run its course. Remember, you have an adoption process ahead. Getting angry at the world and yourself won’t be a healthy step towards recovering in the future.
  1. Denial: Accepting that you have a pregnancy may be a challenge when it comes to the emotion of denial. You didn’t expect this to happen, you may think it’s not real, and that’s okay. It is a complete shock and hard to process for anybody going through this. You may be trying to avoid reality; it’s scary to work through those emotions and acknowledge the loss when giving up your child, relief, knowing you have a child waiting for a loving home, however you want to acknowledge it. Adoption Choices of Florida will be here to help you with the adoption process, even if you are still unable to process that you have a child, right down to the birth. 
  1. Guilt: Whether you begin to accept the adoption process due to reasons such as not being ready for a child yet or not wanting to be a parental figure, guilt still seeps through. There is so much negative stigma when choosing to place your newborn up for adoption as a means to give your child home. Society deems it a poor decision that you are giving up. However, that is not the case at all. You are doing a selfless act for a family who wants to raise a child in a loving home. You are thinking of what’s best for you in the future and for that child. If you ever feel guilty, remember to use positive adoption language. You may feel more at ease if you decide to know the adoptive family personally or, if not, look at the credentials in their profile, knowing they are a perfect fit for your decision. Positive adoption language can help you with lessening the guilt completely. 

How Can I Process these Unplanned Pregnancy Emotions?

Having these four common emotions during an unplanned pregnancy is normal. However, we understand that it’s a huge responsibility and hard to process on your own. Adoption Choices of Florida offers free counseling. Counseling is during and after the adoption process. Processing your emotions and learning from them is a long journey that you can take. We will be there for you. Options such as one on one and group counseling are available. We will work with you to make sure that you feel valid, accepted, and have a healthy mind about what you did. Take all the time you need to feel better about your decisions and actions. 

How do I Plan to Put My Baby Up for Florida Adoption?

To begin your adoption process, you must have some idea of what adoption type you want to move forward with. We understand that an unplanned pregnancy can cause your emotions to take over. You may not know what you want right away or even have a clear goal of what you want. We are here to help in any way we can. We can give you a list of all the adoptive family profile candidates that meet your needs and preferences. 

There are Three Types of Adoption that You can Choose from

Open adoption is when you want to have a communicative and personal relationship with your child and the adoptive family. 

Closed adoption is when you choose not to have any form of contact or communication with your child and adoptive family.

Semi-Open adoption is when you set boundaries on contact and communication, whether personal or regular updates on a child’s upbringing. 

What are Florida Adoption Services There for Me?

In addition to free counseling, we have these four other services to offer you. 

  • A Medical Assistant can help you find a primary doctor for your adoption process and daily scheduled medical checkups. Our focus is to make sure you and the baby are healthy. You can choose a doctor from the recommendations we provide. 
  • Financial Aid can help you with housing, food, maternity clothes, transportation, medical checkups, rent, and other expenses. You can also use grants and loans if you want to continue your education or financial assistance when needed. We can have a list of opportunities for you to see your eligibility. 
  • Housing: Your house may not be suitable for carrying a baby. You may not have a home. You may not feel safe. You may have roommates or in-between living spaces and arrangements. Whichever reason, you need a cozy home to stay and recuperate during the adoption and afterward to get back on your feet. We can offer housing for you to stay in during your pregnancy. 
  • Birth Plan: Talk to your doctor to set up your birth plan. Some of the questions to think about are where you would like your child to be delivered. Do you want an all-natural birth or a planned c-section? Would you like pain relief meds? Who do you want in the delivery room? Just know that when it is time for the birth that your adoption specialist will speak on your behalf and help you get settled. 

At Adoption Choices of Florida, we are prepared to assist you emotionally and physically. We know that your feelings matter during this process and after. Whatever you feel is valid, we understand this may be a difficult road ahead, but we are here to support you and get you the assistance to complete the process and help you heal. 

If you are a pregnant woman in Florida considering adoption and have any questions or concerns about the adoption process, please don’t hesitate to reach out. For more information on adoption, visit us at Adoption Choices of Florida or call us at: (833) 352-3678 or text us at 904-559-1251