Supporting a Birth Mother through the Adoption Process in Florida

Are you a family or friend of a current birth mother choosing adoption? Are you wondering what you could do to help? What your part in the whole adoption process is? Well, there is good news for you! As the birth mother’s support system, your part in this process is important. The birth mother needs her close family and friends by her side during the difficult and emotional decision of giving her child up for adoption. After all, there isn’t anything more important than her knowing she has trusted loved ones she can rely on. 

To get you started, Adoption Choices of Florida is here to give you some insights into exactly how you should be supporting a birth mother through the adoption process.

Lend a Listen Ear and Be Nonjudgmental through Adoption

While the adoption process may seem new and scary for you, imagine what must be going through your loved one’s head as the birth mother. It is important to listen to her and hear why she is choosing adoption. Be sure to remain as nonjudgmental as you can, especially if you disagree with her. There may be a time and place where she may welcome your feedback and opinion, but this isn’t one of them. Her mental and emotional needs are sensitive and fragile. She comes first. 

Along the same lines, research the differences between what is true and not true about adoption before voicing your thoughts. Understand that you may have preconceived notions and not even realize it.   Realize that just because the birth mother is choosing adoption doesn’t mean she doesn’t love the baby growing inside her. It’s quite the opposite. Her choice reflects that she wants the best for her child, and she’s doing everything she can to ensure that that happens.

Educate Yourself about Adoption

When looking from the outside, adoption may seem different to anything you’ve ever encountered before. It may also be hard for you to watch your loved one go through the ups and downs common with the adoption process. You may wonder, if adoption is such a good and rewarding choice, why your pregnant friend or family member is experiencing the whole range of emotions. 

Educate yourself as much as you can on adoption. Learn what adoption is and how it impacts the birth mother, child and adoptive parents. Go to the doctor’s appointments or meetings with the adoption caseworker, if you are able to, and ask questions. Doing this will not only show the birth mother that you have taken a true interest in learning how to be there for her, but it will also help you truly understand the miracle that is adoption.

Help with Choosing the Adoptive Family in FL

One of the biggest decisions that your pregnant friend or family member will have to make in the adoption process is who their baby will be placed with once the adoption has been finalized. This isn’t a choice to be made lightly, as it determines the kind of life that both she and the child will have. She will be provided with adoptive parent profiles to choose from, featuring different families that best match the preferences outlined in her adoption plan. 

If she permits you, review the profiles with her.This decision can be overwhelming and can present with a lot of challenges. As a family member or friend, you can help provide an insight or a second pair of eyes on the information. Take a look at the variety of adoptive families and ask what she likes and dislikes about each one.. 

With your help, things like the type of adoptive parents, religion, or ethnic background can be an easier choice for her. After all, the birth mother has a lot of things to review and think about. She needs her family and friends to be her sounding board — to be someone she can bounce thoughts and ideas off. Your help could be the deciding factor between what type of adoption she chooses, or if she leans more towards an adoptive family with children already or one who doesn’t. 

Supporting a Birth Mother through the Adoption Process

As a trusted friend or family member, you are part of your loved one’s support system. You have been specifically chosen to be part of and welcomed into a complex and emotional season of her life. You get to potentially see who your pregnant friend or family member chooses as her child’s adoptive parents. You get to comfort, encourage and offer assistance in whatever way the birth mother needs. This is a huge honor.

We understand that you may feel just as overwhelmed or at a loss as your loved one at times, but remember to be there for her as much as you can be. You have gained her trust and have been invited to walk with her through a beautiful journey. Down the path to one of the most important decisions of her life.

If you want to learn more about supporting a birth mother through the adoption process, Adoption Choices of Florida is here to help. Our free counseling services extend to immediate family and we will gladly give you the information and resources you need to help your loved one through their adoption journey.

If you are a pregnant woman in Florida considering adoption, and have any questions or concerns about the adoption process, please don’t hesitate to reach out. For more information on adoption, visit us at Adoption Choices of Florida or call us at: (833) 352-3678