The Importance of Practicing Self-Care During the Adoption Process

May 2, 2024

By Adoption Choices of Florida

The Importance of Practicing Self-Care During the Adoption Process

By Isabelle Bryan

For birth mothers planning a child adoption, there is no shortage of decisions to make and tasks to complete. It is enough to take a mental and emotional toll on anyone. As such, it is incredibly important to practice self-care not only post-adoption but during the adoption process as well. This includes observing healthy habits such as sleeping and eating well, of course. But it also means taking the time to care for your mental and emotional well-being.

We at Adoption Choices of Florida know this, and it is our goal to help in whatever way we can. Our adoption agencies’ services vary from providing medical and housing assistance to recommending community resources. Our goal is to ensure each birth mother who works with us is safe and healthy. But that is not all self-care is. And while we cannot provide a warm bath or a guided meditation journal, we can offer you some self-care ideas.

The Emotional Aspect of Your Florida Adoption

Adoption is a legal process in which the birth parents surrender parental rights to an adoptive family. When put that way—and when discussing the making of a birth and adoption plan—it all sounds very clean-cut. But no discussion of adoption would be complete without delving into the emotions that are often part of the process. 

You may grieve the loss of your child, particularly if the adoption was last minute. This grief may last long after the adoption is finalized, even if it is not constantly there. If your adoption is open, you may see your child growing up and grieve the relationship you could have had with them. You may even grieve over what your relationship is now—more than strangers, but likely less than family.

Adoption may also create feelings of anger. Towards your child’s birth father, or towards the decision you have to make. Additionally, you may experience feelings of guilt. You may wish you had done more to keep your child or wonder if you let go too quickly. But it is important to remember that you made the best decision you could. There is no shame in trying to give your child—and yourself—a better life. 

In short, there are quite a few emotions that may stem from adoption. These three are not an exhaustive list, but examples of some of the more common reactions. You may feel very little post-adoption, or you may experience mostly positive feelings. Hope for your child’s future, perhaps, as well as love for your child and their adoptive family. There is no one way to feel—and no wrong way to feel. Adoption will affect each birth mother in its own way. The important thing is to take care of yourself, let yourself feel your emotions, and then let yourself heal.

The Importance of Taking Care of Yourself While Planning Your Adoption

Just like with any pregnancy, you need to take care of yourself—and, in turn, your child—during the adoption process. Self-neglect, eating too much of the wrong foods, and over- or under-exercising can all affect both you and your baby. Make sure you are looking after yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally. Do some research or ask your doctor what kinds of food and supplements you should add to your diet. Make decisions for your adoption and birth plans and work on coming to terms with your emotions. Talk to one of our adoption agencies if you have any questions instead of letting yourself wonder. Do as much as you can to reduce stress and emotional overwhelm now instead of letting it swamp you later.

Your self-care methods do not all have to be so serious, of course. Taking care of your health and preparing yourself emotionally are only some of your options. Another aspect of self-care that is no less important is doing things that make you happy. Do not force yourself to be serious all of the time. Everyone needs a break—especially when they are dealing with pregnancy and adoption planning. 

Self-Care Suggestions for During Your Adoption Process

There are a wide range of ways to practice self-care during your Miami adoption. And with so many options, it may be difficult to decide which ones to choose. Here are some ideas to get you started:

  • Choosing the right adoption agency is both an adoption decision and a self-care tool. Make sure that your choice—whether it is a Christian adoption agency or a non-denominational one—takes care of its clients. 
  • Try journaling. Let yourself work through your emotions on paper. You can even write letters to your child, whether you give them to your child or not.
  • Build a support group. This can be friends and family, but it can also be other birth mothers. Make sure you have people to lean on when you need to.
  • Take time to do the things that make you happy. This may mean visiting a favorite spot or just spending the day at home. You could even splurge on a treat to enjoy after your adoption is finalized. Maybe something you cannot enjoy for the next several months, such as some nice coffee.
  • Spend time outside in the sunlight and fresh air. You can kick back and relax, practice yoga, meditate, or even invite some friends over for a picnic.
  • Get enough sleep, eat healthy, and exercise. However, make sure not to push yourself too much.
  • Let yourself relax. Take a warm bath, listen to your favorite music, or read a book. Do whatever it is that allows you to de-stress.
  • Go shopping for some comfortable clothing
  • Most importantly, avoid overworking yourself. Do what you can in a day, and do not force yourself to do more. Listen to what your body is telling you.

Adoption Choices of Florida is Here to Help

Our adoption agency is here to make sure your pregnancy and adoption in Florida go as smoothly as possible. Our services include:

  • Financial assistance for eligible birth mothers
  • Prenatal care during your pregnancy
  • Housing support during—and for a brief period following—your adoption
  • Counseling services
  • Help creating an adoption and birth plan
  • Assistance for those dealing with a teen pregnancy or unplanned pregnancy
  • 24/7 support from our adoption specialists

Taking the Time to Look After Yourself and Your Child Amidin the Midst of Adoption Planning

Adoption planning can be a stressful business. As such, it is vitally important to take the time for self-care. Not just for yourself, but for the sake of your child’s well-being. This means looking after both your physical and mental health, of course. But it also means taking the time to do the things you enjoy. Letting yourself relax and have fun is just as important as exercising and eating right.

Unfortunately, we at Adoption Choices of Florida cannot help you with every kind of self-care. But we can give you suggestions and do our best to ensure your physical and emotional well-being. And if you have any questions—or if you just need someone to talk to—we are always available. It is our goal to make sure your adoption process is as easy and stress-free as possible.