20, Pregnant, and I Don’t Want to Parent, What next?
20 Pregnant I Don’t Want to Parent
By Erin Jones
Once you commit to your adoption journey, one of your first steps is to choose an adoption agency that is best for both you and your child. A good adoption agency should have a staff of adoption professionals, social workers, emotional support counselors, and attorneys on hand.
Equally as important as the titles of each of these professionals are the qualities that make them reliable. Below, Adoption Choices of Florida has listed five of the most important qualities to look for when choosing a team of experts to help guide you through your adoption journey!
When choosing your adoption team, it is important to ask who really cares about you and your child. How will you know if these people care about you? Trust us when we say you’ll know. Follow your instincts and listen to what your gut is telling you. Even though you’ve decided to place your child for adoption, your parental instincts will tell you what’s right and what’s not. You got this!
It is just as important to have professionals who are supportive of you and each decision you make throughout your adoption journey. Remember, your team of adoption experts can give you advice to guide you, but ultimately, it’s up to you to make final decisions regarding your child’s life and future, as well as your own.
Not only should your adoption team consist of people who are caring and supportive of you, but also of people who are passionate about what they do. Professionals who work in adoption should care more about you and your child than their paycheck. When talking to adoption agencies and deciding which one to work with, trust yourself. If you like more than one, gather as much information as you need to finalize your decision. If you don’t like any of the adoption agencies you’ve researched, expand your search until you find your fit.
Your team of adoption professionals should be, well, professional! If you can, find a couple of different agencies within your community and, again, do your research. Check out each agency’s website, call and ask questions, and read stories of those who’ve worked with those adoption agencies before. Chances are, the information you gather on your own is going to be the most helpful to you. Hearing the experiences of others is often one of the best ways to educate yourself!
Every adoption professional has to get their start somewhere, but it’s wise to choose a team of experts who are experienced in creating adoption plans for children. The most experienced adoption professionals have worked with all kinds of people, making them qualified for the most complex cases. Experienced adoption professionals are highly sought after, so the sooner you find one, the better!
Having a strong support system outside of your adoption agency is just as important as the agency. Outside support can come from family members, close friends, co-workers, your community, or all of the above! Support from your team of adoption professionals is critical but, it’s nice to get an outside perspective.
Think about it this way: every person is different, with their own unique life experiences, perspectives, values, and so on. You never know what kind of eye-opening advice a family member or friend could give you about your adoption journey. So, be open-minded! Listen to others around you, but remember, it’s up to you to decide what’s best for both you and your child!
If you are a birth parent considering adoption and have any questions or concerns about the process, please don’t hesitate to reach out. For more information on adoption, visit us at Adoption Choices of Florida or call us at 800-985-8108
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