Written by Erin Jones
Once you commit to your adoption journey, one of your first steps is to choose an adoption agency that you feel is going to prioritize the best interest of both you and your child. A good adoption agency should have a solid staff of adoption professionals, social workers, emotional support counselors and therapists, and adoption lawyers and attorneys on hand to address all of your adoption-related questions and concerns.
Equally as important as the titles of each of these professionals are the qualities that make them good at what they do. Below, Adoption Choices of Florida has listed five of the most important qualities to look for when choosing a team of experts to help guide you through your adoption journey!
When choosing your adoption agency and/or adoption team, one of the most important questions you must ask yourself is “do these people truly care about me and my child?” You might be asking yourself, “well, how will I know if these people really care about me?” Trust us when we say, you’ll know. Follow your instincts and listen to what your gut is telling you. Even though you’ve decided to place your child for adoption, your parental instincts will kick in and they’ll tell you what’s right and what’s not. You got this!
Just as important as having professionals on your team who care is having professionals who are supportive of you, your adoption decision, and every decision you make once your adoption journey has begun. Remember, your team of adoption experts can give you advice to guide you; but, ultimately, it’s up to you to make final decisions regarding your child’s life and future, as well as your own.
Not only should your adoption team consist of people who are caring and supportive of you, but also of people who are passionate about what they do. Professionals who work in the field of adoption should care more about you and your child rather than how big their next paycheck is going to be. If you’ve talked to a couple of agencies and feel strongly for one over the other, trust yourself. If you like both, gather more information about each or reach out again to help you finalize your decision. If you don’t like either or any of the agencies you’ve researched, expand your search a little and keep looking until you find an agency you do like.
Your team of adoption professionals should be, well, professional! If you can, find a couple of different agencies within your community and again, do your research. Check out each agency’s website thoroughly, give every one of them a call and ask questions, and read the reviews and success stories of birth mothers and adoptive families who’ve worked with those particular adoption agencies before. Chances are, the information you gather from reading reviews and success stories, as well as from actually calling to ask questions, is going to be the most helpful to you. Hearing the experiences of others is often one of the best ways to educate yourself!
Every professional within the field of adoption has to get their start somewhere, however, it’s wise to choose a team of experts who are experienced in helping birth mothers successfully create an adoption plan for the child — or children — they’re placing for adoption. The most experienced adoption professionals have worked with birth mothers and adoptive families of all kinds, making them more than qualified to handle even the most complex or unique of adoption cases. Experienced adoption professionals are highly sought after by birth mothers and adoptive families alike, so the sooner you find one you like, the better!
Don’t Forget about Your Family and Friends!
Having a strong support system outside of your adoption agency is just as important as the support you receive from your adoption agency. Outside support can come from family members, close friends, co-workers, your community, or all of the above! As valuable and critical as support from your team of adoption professionals, sometimes it’s nice to get a fresh perspective from someone outside the realm of adoption.
Think about it this way: every person is different, with their own unique life experiences, life perspectives, opinions, morals, values, and so on. You never know what kind of eye-opening advice someone within your family, friend group, or community could give you that could be relevant to your adoption journey. So, be open-minded! Listen to others around you, but remember, it’s still up to you to decide what’s in the best interest of both you and your child at the end of the day!
If you are a birth parent considering adoption, and have any questions or concerns about the process, please don’t hesitate to reach out. For more information on adoption, visit us at Adoption Choices of Florida or call us at: 800-985-8108
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